What to Write to a Pen Pal – 25 Thoughtful Letter Ideas | Letter in the Post
Stuck on what to write to your pen pal? Discover 25 meaningful letter ideas and questions to keep your snail mail conversations flowing — from hobbies to heartfelt reflections.
✉️ Introduction
So, you’ve found a pen pal through Letter in the Post — how exciting! But now comes the big question: what should you actually write in your first letter?
Whether you’re just getting started or keeping a long-term correspondence alive, these 25 friendly ideas will help you craft letters that your pen pal can’t wait to open.
🌷 1. Start with a Warm Greeting
Set a friendly tone right from the first line. Simple works best:
“Hello from misty Edinburgh!” or “Greetings from the coast of Cornwall!”
A warm opening instantly makes your letter feel personal and genuine.
🌞 2. Introduce Yourself (or Give a Life Update)
If it’s your first letter, share a few things about yourself:
- Where you live (generally — not your exact address)
- What you do for work or fun
- Why you joined Letter in the Post
If you’ve already exchanged letters, offer a cheerful update:
“I finally finished the book I told you about!” or “The first autumn leaves are falling outside my window.”
☕ 3. Share Everyday Moments
Your daily life may feel ordinary to you, but it’s fascinating to someone far away. Write about:
- The weather where you are
- Something funny that happened recently
- A favourite meal or a new recipe you tried
- What you see outside your window
🎨 4. Talk About Your Hobbies
Letters are wonderful for discovering shared interests.
Write about:
- Books, films, or podcasts you love
- A creative hobby you’ve taken up
- Gardening, travel, or cooking stories
And always ask what your pen pal enjoys — it keeps the conversation two-sided.
🌍 5. Describe Your Surroundings
Help your pen pal imagine your world.
“As I write this, a breeze is carrying the scent of rain through my window.”
Vivid details make letters feel alive and heartfelt.
💭 6. Ask Gentle, Thoughtful Questions
Questions invite conversation. Try these to keep things flowing:
- What’s something that made you smile this week?
- Do you prefer mornings or evenings?
- What’s your comfort food?
- Which place would you love to visit one day?
- What’s your favourite time of year — and why?
🌈 7. Include Something Personal
Slip in a little surprise — a pressed flower, postcard, or doodle.
Even a handwritten quote or a snippet of poetry adds charm.
🕊️ 8. End on a Warm Note
Close your letter with kindness:
“Can’t wait to hear from you soon,”
“Sending a bit of sunshine your way,”
“Yours in ink and friendship,”
A gentle sign-off leaves a lasting impression.
💌 Final Thoughts
Writing to a pen pal is about connection, not perfection. Your words don’t need to be fancy — just honest and kind. Start with small details, ask open questions, and let your friendship grow one letter at a time.
If you haven’t yet found your pen pal, join our community at Letter in the Post — where real friendships are written by hand and delivered by post.
